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By Luka Funduk

How to Write a Best Man Speech

What Not to Include in Your Best Man or Maid of Honor Speech

The moment has arrived. You’ve been bestowed the honor of being the best man or maid of honor at your best friend’s wedding. Part of this esteemed role includes delivering a speech that’s memorable, heartfelt, and engaging. While this is a fantastic opportunity to express your affection and share fun memories, there are certain things that should be avoided to maintain the elegance and joy of the occasion. Here’s a guide to what not to include in your best man or
maid of honor speech:

1. Embarrassing or Inappropriate Stories: 

While it might be tempting to share that hilariously embarrassing story from college, think about the diverse audience present. Stories that are too personal, embarrassing, or inappropriate can make guests, the couple, or their families feel uncomfortable. Keep the content suitable for all ages and relationships.

2. Inside Jokes: 

A speech filled with inside jokes can alienate the majority of the guests who won’t understand them. While it’s okay to include one or two, ensure your speech is accessible and enjoyable for everyone.

3. Excessive Length: 

A good speech is like a mini-skirt; short enough to maintain interest, but long enough to cover the essentials. Aim for about 5-7 minutes. A speech that drags on can lose the audience’s attention and detract from the festive atmosphere.

4. Too Much Alcohol Before Speaking: 

While a little liquid courage can help, too much can lead to a disastrous speech. Slurred words, rambling, and inappropriate comments can ruin the special moment. Stay clear-headed and professional.

5. Negativity and Complaints: 

This is a celebration, not a venting session. Avoid bringing up past conflicts, negative experiences, or anything that could cast a shadow over the event. Keep the tone positive, uplifting, and forward-looking.

6. Controversial Topics: 

Politics, religion, or other polarizing topics should be avoided. The wedding is a time of unity and love, not division and debate.

7. Overly Personal Details: 

Sharing too much about the couple’s personal lives or your own relationship woes can make guests uncomfortable. Keep the speech respectful and considerate of everyone’s privacy.

8. Clichés and Overused Quotes: 

While it’s fine to draw inspiration from traditional sayings or famous quotes, try to add a personal touch. Share genuine anecdotes or personalized well-wishes that reflect the unique bond you share with the couple.

9. Forgetting to Prepare: 

Wing it, and you risk freezing up or missing key points. Prepare your speech well in advance, practice it, and maybe even have a backup copy on hand. This will help you deliver a smooth, heartfelt message.

10. Ignoring the Couple: 

Your speech should focus on the couple and their future together, not just your relationship with them. Balance personal stories with heartfelt wishes for their journey ahead.

Remember, your speech is a gift to the couple, a highlight of their special day. By avoiding these common pitfalls, you can create a memorable, touching, and respectful tribute that honors your friendship and celebrates their love. Keep it genuine, keep it joyful, and you’ll surely deliver a speech that’s remembered for all the right reasons.